• TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF •
Have a great time!
Be sweet on the inside
never let go
I've just read a very interesting article in the Financial Times.
The main highlights I would like to share with you are worth your time and thinking:
Times are changing... see all the fuss about Facebook's Privacy Settings? DO NOT STAND STILL. Pay attention to the new trend.
This also made me remember a great book I read a while ago:
From the Book I would select 3 main points for you:
1. Work hard to be on the top position!
Being first is a huge advantage. It means that you’ve positioned yourself in your potential customers mind first. On top of that it’s hard to take a company down from the first spot.
2. If you’re not first, position yourself in a different niche.
DO NOT WASTE TIME competing directly with the number 1 in the broad category.
3. Position your business the way that it is already seen in your prospects mind.
Look outward. What do your customers think about your brand? That is much more important than focusing on how you see your business or want to see it. Customers will point your strengths directly! Take advantage of that.
DO NOT STAND STILL! THINK! ACT! NOW!
Anti-advice, of course! Don't be mislead:
You were created for great things! Go ahead!
There will always be those who criticize... This is the way of the world... But you should focus on
your hard work,
your perseverance and
your strong willpower.
Those will fill your mind entirely (most of the time) and there will be no space left for those negative thoughts of criticism.
However, you will have to learn to deal with those voices along the way... sometimes it is better to ignore them, sometimes to use a great deal of objectivity. Think about (1) what you are doing and (2) the reasons behind the criticism that you seem to be attracting. Also consider (3) the experience of the people who are criticizing.
These 3 should be useful guidelines if re positioning is necessary!
Just don't stop!!
REAL ADVICE! :-)
This should get your attention: try just one more time!
“You will teach them to fly, but they will not fly your flight.
You will teach them to dream, but they will not dream your dream.
You will teach them to live, but they will not live your life.
Nevertheless, in every flight, in every life, in every dream,
the print of the way you taught will always remain.”
Mother Theresa of Calcuta
Start working on your communication skills. First Priority: listening!
Think you know all about it?
Please run this control quiz and get a quick understanding of where you are:
1. Do you mind-read most of the time?
2. Do you filter: listening to some things and not to others?
3. Do you judge: make up your mind before you hear the content of the message?
4. Do you avoid being wrong: can't listen to criticism, can't be corrected?
Do your answers to these questions make the red alert sound go off?
Work on GOOD LISTENING and be a better leader, a better wife/ husband, mother/ father, friend, colleague.
Truly try to understand and know what the other person is saying.
Ask questions throughout any dialogue until you’re sure that you’re clear about everything.
>> What I hear you saying is...
>> So basically how you felt is...
>> Do you mean...?
This is one of main weapons against miscommunication and will improve your skills exponentially!
Last weekend - a rainy weekend in Lisbon, for a change - we watched a movie: Inside Out.
If you haven't seen it yet, don't miss out!
What an incredible movie! We loved it! I watched it with my 2 year old, 5 year old and 8 year old children and we were all amused!
“Do you ever look at someone and wonder what is going on inside their head?”
And then the movie goes on introducing the characters: joy, sadness, fear, disgust and anger.
Precious! It will also help out with getting my kids emotions out after school days! I definitely needed some imagination with that! Thank you, Pixar!
My favourite scene? Getting to watch the emotions control room of the husband-father! Hilarious!
I could bet they have done their research work well because all the memories were arranged inside the brain of the young Riley and the daily emotions were then linked to strong parts of her character: the honesty island, hockey island, family island, friendship island, goofy island. Formidably ingenious! I guess this allegorical representation can also help me out on my journey to discover my Personal Ideal *.
The director mentioned in his Oscar acceptance speech that the movie was inspired by his own children growing up and urged the audience to embrace creativity. So I will leave you with his words to inspire you today:
“You can make stuff.
Make films, draw, write.
It will make a world of difference.”
* The personal ideal, or “P.I.”, is the ideal or mission which God gives to each person. Every person has a personal ideal, even if one is not aware of it explicitly. In this sense it is nothing new. Today, however, when it is so much harder to define and assert one’s identity in the face of a much more complex society, it becomes very much an urgent matter to explicitly seek out and define the “guiding thought” of God’s plan for me.Schoenstatt speaks of three definitions of personal ideal. The first is the philosophical definition: “God’s unique idea of me which he has carried from all eternity.” This definition is called philosophical because it looks at the metaphysical connection between me and God (independent of any declaration of faith). The second is the theological definition: “The way I am a unique manifestation of the perfections of Christ.” It is called theological because presupposes my belonging to Christ and my cooperation in the work of salvation. The third is the psychological definition: “the fundamental tenor and temper of my soul (which, if correctly cultivated, lead us to the full freedom of the children of God).” As a psychological definition it focuses on the intrinsic features of the soul; instead of looking at the ideal from “above”, it looks at it from “within” myself.
My name is T. S. Coelho and I live in Lisbon, Portugal, with my husband and three kids. I work in the asset management industry, managing an equities fund.