Our level of distraction these days is quite absurd... We drop a lot of topics in the first, second or final stage... we forget about it, we loose interest... that leaves us living in a state of anxiety, always waiting for something to happen...
So how about making the purpose this week to
1 - complete tasks;
2 - (if that is not possible then ) acknowledge where you are at and what you need in order to finish;
3 - do one thing at a time.
I'm betting we'll get to the end of the week with better results and feeling good and restful about our trail.
Go for it!
“If everybody minded their own business,
the world would go around a great deal faster than it does.”
Lewis Caroll, Alice in Wonderland
1. Stay curious - ask questions, observe
2. Be open minded - embrace new ideas
3. Explore new topics
4. Be willing to take risks
5. Make time for constant feeding of new ideas: visit bookstores, museums, look at portfolios, watch movies, listen to music, try something new
“If your actions inspire others to
do more and
you are a leader.”
John Quincy Adams
I'm reading 'Originals' by Adam Grant.
A particular message that has got me thinking is that procrastination makes you more creative.
One of the examples mentioned by Adam is that the famous speech 'I have a dream' by Martin Luther King was written a few hours before the address. The truth is that the first thoughts on a topic are usually basic and conventional. If we give enough time for our mind to wander, to relate ideas, to be more flexible, we end up with a much more interesting concept.
Let us not wallow in the valley of despair, I say to you today, my friends.
And so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.
I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal."
I have a dream that one day on the red hills of Georgia, the sons of former slaves and the sons of former slave owners will be able to sit down together at the table of brotherhood.
I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a state sweltering with the heat of injustice, sweltering with the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.
I have a dream today!
This speech impresses me every time I read it...
And to imagine how it was back then...
Eight years before Martin Luther King Jr.'s brilliant and famous speech, Robert Frank took the picture above, unmasking the uncomfortable truth about the american society back then. His approach seems to confirm Adam Grant's views:
"The picture, shot a few weeks before Rosa Parks refused to give up her seat on a bus in Montgomery, Ala., was unplanned. Frank was shooting a street parade when he saw the trolley passing. Spinning around, Frank raised his camera and shot just before the trolley disappeared from view."
Unplanned. I guess people who are exceptionally skilled can leave aside the 'planning' part of the process. For the rest of us... planning is crucial I would say.
What are your thoughts on this?
I have a new pen! I actually love stationary!
This one has a special feature that I found particularly charming: it suggests activities for each day of the week. So, in case you have no ideas left and are already bored of the installed routine, just check what day of the week it is and follow the instructions:
Monday: watch a movie;
Tuesday: listen to an album;
Wednesday: read a romance;
Thursday: write a poem;
Friday: buy a ticket;
Saturday and Sunday: take a weekend trip!
While trying to figure out a way to help a friend cheer up after some really bad news I remembered one activity my family made during lent: The Gratitude Jar.
Each day each one of us would write a small paper with the best thing that happened during the day. It was also joyful to watch the jar fill up as each day passes reminding ourselves that we are, in fact, blessed!
Try it! Even after you had the worst day of all, I think you can always fund something that made you smile, laugh, or have a positive thought. Hold on to that! It will help!
September... that time of the year. We leave behind summer vacation and refocus on our work, career, the year ahead.
Kids go back to school at a new more demanding level.
Routine starts at full speed.
So before school starts and 'panic-mode' routine settles... I want to commit to write more!
WRITE WHAT SHOULD NOT BE FORGOTTEN
If you want to take advantage of my new purpose, please tell me if you want me to develop on any subject that may interest you! You have a full archive to explore so you may already know which one of my usual topics you want to me to feed. Just let me know and I will think and write about it!
Loosing someone creates a big hole inside... the feeling of emptiness tries to fill everything inside... we try to regain our senses... it feels like we're standing on a moving floor...
everyone else seems to be behaving quite reasonably, normally, but we're looking at everything from a different perspective. In touch with our feelings,
in a very dramatic way,
without being prepared.
We don't know where to go, what to do, how to respond to very basic questions that have lost all the sense.
After trying to realize the disappearance of someone we love, we think about all the people that have lost someone... we think about who may be suffering more from the same loss and may need our help. But then...
we don't know what to say... we don't have any idea about how we may comfort each other, even the closest ones. We've lost touch, forgot all the words or think that they have lost all their usual usefulness...And suddenly we skip to the ancient form of being with each other... suddenly we don't want to 'what's up' anyone, we just want to talk, to listen, to understand... to spend more time together... everything that is filling our calendar makes no more sense...
'why does everybody keep being so busy? don't they think about how short life is?'
But they didn't have the same wake up call we did.
One more chance to realize what actually matters and leave out everything else.
One more chance to stop, reset, hold to all the good memories, make them part of who we are, and try to offer that to everyone around us.
Try to connect (or reconnect),
Try to get a new sense of being in touch with our feelings, with people who we care about, with people who make a difference in our life and make us feel so grateful.
We've just got back from holidays! We took 3 straight weeks... Perfect to have enough time to renew and refresh! Let me see...
1. Get enough sleep? Yes
2. Spend time enjoying food? Definitely!!
3. Alternate physical and mental activities? YES (more on this on posts to follow)
4. Get outside? Yes
5. Take time for family and friends? Yes
6. Listen to music? Yes
So I guess I would pass the exam on 'taking a real holiday'!
I also took time to observe other vacation methods... My husband worked at least 2-3 hours every day... is this prejudicial? Well, I'm not sure about that... At least knowing him and people who have similar personalities, I think It was beneficial! Let's see... he did 4 out of the 6 recommended steps highlighted above for taking a real vacation... and besides that he has certainly added to the list:
- Extra points on being a team player/ having a good attitude about working on holiday
- Personal satisfaction
Well, it doesn't look like he has done a bad choice! Let's see how he manages the end of the holiday and if he can keep the good energy for the long months we have ahead of us until the next holidays!
What about you? Do you enjoy working a little while on holidays or do you brag about not even checking your emails and dedicating full time and energy to the task of actually resting?
My name is T. S. Coelho and I live in Lisbon, Portugal, with my husband and three kids. I work in the asset management industry, managing an equities fund.