This morning I asked a friend about her search for her ‘dream job’ and I was caught by surprise with her question about how am I dealing with my job and current environment dominated by uncertainty… That made me realize that actually I developed a system to defend myself of being brought down by recent news and pessimism in the office. Although a couple of months ago I was stressing every day and always thinking about a worst case scenario where I could be fired or caught in a huge restructuring process where decisions regarding people would not be fair, I am now quite calm, I am not obsessed about having control over my future and I find myself much happier at the end of the day.
So, what exactly did I change in my daily posture that made me gain this inner and outer peace and what can I recommend?
1. Stay focused!
Get yourself together and define your mission. Then focus on it every day and ‘quiet down’ every voice or buzz that gets you out of the path you have defined to peace and happiness. The more you work on being aligned with your superior mission, the more you will want to work at it. This will bring more opportunities and give you a sense of growth that will conquer your state of well being in spite of challenges at work or at home;
2. Work at being happy!
Remaining happy and approaching life's tests from a positive attitude is like building muscle. Worry only about what you can control, not about the things outside your sphere of influence.
Surround yourself with people who will support you unconditionally. Remind yourself that everybody needs love and care. You need support and you think you are in a difficult situation but if you reach out you will learn very quickly how small your ‘big problem’ is compared to life’s real problems. Share your hopes and fears and offer your support to other peoples’ problems. This will make every problem feel lighter and will enrich your bonds with colleagues, friends or family.
My name is T. S. Coelho and I live in Lisbon, Portugal, with my husband and three kids. I work in the asset management industry, managing an equities fund.